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A Different Kind of Leader
Servant-leadership is not just a philosophy; it is a way of life. As with any discipline, it requires practice and skill development. It is akin to learning a new language: Once you have the basics, you have access to another world. Some of those skills include active listening; the giving and receiving of feedback; disciplined reflection upon experience; and understanding group dynamics. All those skills affect the growth of an individual, a small group, or even an entire organization.
But what exactly is servant-leadership? For one answer, I turn to Robert Greenleaf, who coined the term in a 1970 essay entitled “The Servant as Leader,” in which he writes: “The servant-leader is servant first. It begins with the natural feeling that one wants to serve first. Then conscious choice brings one to aspire to lead. The difference manifests itself in the care taken by the servant to make sure that other people’s highest priority needs are being served…”
Conscious choice, a natural feeling, and serving others are all part of being a servant-leader. Therefore, servant-leadership can enable us to bring out our better selves and improve the lives of others. To that end, I turn again to Greenleaf, who says: “The best test is: Do those served grow as persons; do they, while being served, become healthier, wiser, freer, more autonomous, more likely themselves to become servants?”
Not every servant-leader is a Mother Theresa, a Gandhi, or a Martin Luther King, Jr., though they are easily recognized for their contributions to humanity. A mother, a father, a doctor, a priest, a friend who listens – all can be servant-leaders. Companies that consider themselves servant-leaders include Southwest Airlines, Nordstrom, Herman Miller, and Synovus Bank.
Anyone with the willingness to serve others and who makes the conscious choice to lead with the best interest of others in mind can be one, too. Try it. It will open up your world.
Mark Elberfeld, Communications Coordinator
What if Servant-Leadership Weren't Called Servant-Leadership?
What if servant leadership had not been initially labeled servant leadership? How many times has this been pondered as this value-laden leadership concept evolved? And why does the name itself present an impediment for implementation, empirical researching, and overall comprehension? Can we not argue that the oxymoronic implication the terminology suggests has hindered the spirited and necessary debate within leadership, management and organizational behavioral circles, both academic and anecdotal, to nearly subjugate this important leadership theory to others such as transformational or authentic leadership?
This brief essay is not intended to offer substantiated results of exhaustive research that are based on testing various terminologies and definitions in an effort to “poll”, if you will, labels that might be less controversial. But when most – at least in my experience – conversations about servant leadership begin with an almost obligatory and extensive discussion on the terminology itself rather than on the characteristics of the theory, it causes me to wonder what if the contemporary founder, Robert Greenleaf, had selected another term. Of course one could make the argument that a conversation on the definition of the term aids the overall explanation of the theory. But I will leave that debate for another day.
So what is it specifically about the term servant leadership that creates a barrier to further understanding? I believe that the challenges are primarily three-fold: the contradiction inherent in the term, the religious connotations that are implied and the lack of operational clarity offered by the theory’s title. I offer the suggestion that a slight adjustment to the theory terminology itself could open the door to further acceptance within the wider community.
Servant and its entomological cousin, service, by its very definition imply assuming an inferior position to a “master” or “leader.” Those who are either in positions of leadership or those who aggressively seek these offices (which causes its own set of servant leadership implementation issues) are immediately disengaged when they encounter passive terminology. How can one effectively and efficiently lead while taking an inferior posture? Moving past this initial barrier can be accomplished if the individual is able to translate servant into supporting or, better yet, into stewardship rather than focusing on the more stereotypical passive role of a servant.
Issues of faith are complicated within a standard corporate environment. Not only does their exist an intangible quality to one’s belief system that varies greatly across the world but also there are human resource and legal implications that have to be seriously considered which makes the discussion of religious subject matters taboo within most situations. The frequent use of the term servant within religious circles as well as the well-used example of Jesus Christ as the pinnacle of servant leadership has given the impression to many that servant leadership is strictly a faith based approach to leadership and may work in those arenas but not in a serious business environment.
Compounding this issue is the servant leadership community itself. There have been many academic programs that teach servant leadership and attempt to define the theory for future research. Many of these “centers” have emerged at faith-based institutions who teach it within a biblical context. Certainly there are moral parallels within servant leadership that line up well with religious instructions but until the servant leadership community matures past “do these things because they are the right thing to do” and into showing compelling, measurable increases in output, the theory will continue to remain primarily anecdotal.
Finally, the term does not provide implicit instructions on how to implement the style. Authentic leadership means to lead authentically. Transformational leadership means to lead by transforming. When our hypothetical corporate leader stumbles across servant leadership, although those of us within the subculture know that it means to lead by serving, to the CEO this immediately brings up connotations of inferiority which brings us back to square one of this essay. What if servant leadership was not called servant leadership
I ask this question merely to generate conversation on a clear hindrance to the development of this wonderful leadership concept. Is it possible to alter the labeling terminology to open up the concept to further research or is the fact that the term “servant” being in the definition give the theory strength and separation from other value-laden leadership approaches? What other terms could be applied to allow the theory to gain more widespread recognition?
By JJ Musgrove, Graduate Student in the Master’s of Science in Organizational Leadership Program, Servant Leadership Track, Columbus State University, Columbus, Georgia.
Servant-Leadership in Parenting
I read a line once in the classic parenting tome, "Dr. Spock's Baby and Childcare," about handling a two-year-old, and I think about it regularly.
There were several pages on the joy and frustration that come with having a toddler, but one statement spoke to me most: "Your goal is to keep him from being a little tyrant but not to sweat the small stuff."
My daughter, Nora, will be four this fall and I still recite those words in my head at times, like a mantra.
Raising children - our second child, Gabriel, was born last year - often yields questions that are incredibly difficult to answer, and this is the part of parenting I find the most stressful.
Now that both of my children are beyond infancy and beginning to play together, motherhood seems much easier than in the past. Life is calmer, and always adorable. But still, the questions! Questions that you want to get right, because you want your children to thrive, and that range in subject, from dealing with illnesses to curbing bad behavior.
When you become a parent, you take on the responsibility of another human's life, and this manifests itself in all sorts of ways. Some are easily defined, like providing food and diapers and education, and some are less so, like figuring out how to translate your ideals and philosophies into navigating a temper tantrum. The questions, really, fall under one huge, all-encompassing shoulder shrug, and that is, "Am I doing this right?"
The reason I found Dr. Spock's short answer to the terrible twos so comforting, is that it simplifies what has become a complicated practice in the modern age. Parenting discussions are not only public, surrounded by media hype and promoted on blogs and web forums, but often volatile.
For some reason, we parents can't stop talking about the small stuff, and I am certainly not immune.
Nora is older and much more self-sufficient than she was when I first sought expert parenting advice in the pages of a book. But she still needs her father and I in so many ways, and in her struggle for independence things sometimes get a little tough.
She was sitting in the backseat of my car recently on our way home from Pre-K, and she grew more and more angry as we drove, clearly tired from her day at school and annoyed that I wasn't accurately interpreting her commentary on various subjects.
Of course, the way she put it was a very loud, "Don't talk to me anymore, MOMMY!"
I held my breath. The questions began. Should I yell at her? Was that too harsh? Threaten a time out? Would that work? Should I stop the car and give her a hug? Is that attachment parenting? What is attachment parenting anyway? If I let her get away with talking back to me will she be mean to her friends in subsequent years? Will she even have friends?
Then I let it go. Small stuff.
On that drive home I suddenly thought about something I almost never do, perhaps prompted by the realization that my daughter is growing up in leaps and bounds: the most important thing I can do for my children is lead my own happy and fulfilling life, so that the best version of myself is their primary role model.
That in seeing me succeeding as a mother, a writer and anything else I choose to be, I am best serving my children, and that everything else should flow from that central tenet of our life as a family.
In light of a much bigger picture, her outburst was easier to handle. "Hey," I said calmly, "we don't talk like that to Mommy or to anyone." Then I changed the subject. "Nora, tell me what you want to be when you grow up."
Her face relaxed as she thought. "When I grow up," she said. "I want to drink coffee." She paused. "And I want to be a mommy."
My heart full, I said, "That sounds wonderful. And what else?"
Cara McDonough is a freelance writer who lives in New Haven, Connecticut.
Servant-Leadership and Coaching
I remember almost every single coach I have competed for starting with tee ball when I was five all the way through my current triathlon coach. These coaches do not stick in my mind because we were the best team (they invented the 5 run mercy rule for my little league team) or had the best record (except maybe the longest losing steak); rather, they remain in my mind and were (and are) great because they epitomized the paradoxical nature of coaching being not only leaders of their teams but also servants to their teams.
The leadership part of a great coach is obvious. Coaches are expected to provide guidance to their athletes and lead them to "glory"-be it a championship ring, a winning season, or a small personal achievement like losing weight or getting in shape. This type of leadership, though, is only half the job. They also have to lead their athletes off the field. In high school and college, when I had a problem -- be it academic, social, or familial -- I went to my coaches. Their office door was always open and even if they were extremely busy, they seemed to make time to listen. They did not always have an answer nor could they always fix the problem, but they could provide an open ear and understanding. They would turn off their cell phone, shut their laptop, and then sit with an open heart, a compassionate tongue, and patient mind while I unloaded my troubles. They rarely came up with the magical solution or tell me exactly what I wanted to hear (more often then not they would give me the right advice even if it was not what I wanted to hear), but by providing this outlet, they coached and led me through the rough spots and rejoiced with me in the good, a leadership quality that good coaches carry over into their athletic profession.
Similar to how they are present when their athletes struggle in life, coaches are also present when their athletes struggle on the field. In a hard interval set, race, or loss, the coach is there with his or her team as the team struggles and leads the team through it. They empathize with how tough the situation is but also gets the team through the exertion because the coach has been there as well. Instead of standing apart from the team, they are there with the team, relating and suffering with them and thus their gaining the respect. A team who feels that their coach can relate to them and their struggles will respect their coach as a leader and follow him or her because they know that the he or she is physically and emotionally invested in them through good times (or scores) and bad.
I remember almost every single coach I have competed for starting with tee ball when I was five all the way through my current triathlon coach. These coaches do not stick in my mind because we were the best team (they invented the 5 run mercy rule for my little league team) or had the best record (except maybe the longest losing steak); rather, they remain in my mind and were (and are) great because they epitomized the paradoxical nature of coaching being not only leaders of their teams but also servants to their teams.
The leadership part of a great coach is obvious. Coaches are expected to provide guidance to their athletes and lead them to "glory"-be it a championship ring, a winning season, or a small personal achievement like losing weight or getting in shape. This type of leadership, though, is only half the job. They also have to lead their athletes off the field. In high school and college, when I had a problem -- be it academic, social, or familial -- I went to my coaches. Their office door was always open and even if they were extremely busy, they seemed to make time to listen. They did not always have an answer nor could they always fix the problem, but they could provide an open ear and understanding. They would turn off their cell phone, shut their laptop, and then sit with an open heart, a compassionate tongue, and patient mind while I unloaded my troubles. They rarely came up with the magical solution or tell me exactly what I wanted to hear (more often then not they would give me the right advice even if it was not what I wanted to hear), but by providing this outlet, they coached and led me through the rough spots and rejoiced with me in the good, a leadership quality that good coaches carry over into their athletic profession.
Similar to how they are present when their athletes struggle in life, coaches are also present when their athletes struggle on the field. In a hard interval set, race, or loss, the coach is there with his or her team as the team struggles and leads the team through it. They empathize with how tough the situation is but also gets the team through the exertion because the coach has been there as well. Instead of standing apart from the team, they are there with the team, relating and suffering with them and thus their gaining the respect. A team who feels that their coach can relate to them and their struggles will respect their coach as a leader and follow him or her because they know that the he or she is physically and emotionally invested in them through good times (or scores) and bad.
Some coaches quit when the season looks grim and move to another team which may have a better record or players.
Good coaches, though, see their team as the proverbial hand that they are dealt and then works with them through both wins and losses. They are therefore, in a way, selfless. They are able to shelve their own pride and aspirations for personal accomplishment so that the team itself rises as a unit. Therefore, they push their teams hard but not so that they themselves could win glory but so that the team, as a collective unit, could. It might be tempting for a coach to push an athlete to the absolute breaking point in order to achieve glory -- not the glory of the team but their own personal glory -- at the risk of injuring and alienating the team. It might be even more tempting for coaches to cut or not play the "Rudy"s of the team in order to avoid a loss or look bad in front of other coaches and teams. Great coaches though resist all these lures, sacrifice their own pride, and put the team as a whole in front of themselves. They recognize that no win is as important as an athlete's health and happiness and that if an athlete is willing to put in the time and effort, then he or she is part of the team and deserves just as much attention as the star. In doing so, they become servants to their team.
While Coaches Battaglia and Owen (my little league coaches), Leiderman (my crazy Russian wrestling coach), Delinsky (high school cross country), or Norman (middle school lacrosse) may not be elected to the Coaches Hall of Fame anytime soon, in my mind, they are up there already, right next to Joe Paterno, Vince Lomarbdi, Phil Jackson and even Mr. Miyagi because they were both leaders, leading their team as part of the team, and servants, serving the group as a whole with a selfless passion and commitment. Their screams, tears, curses, and sweat may have faded but because of their servant-leadership their impact on me and others plays on, which outlasts any trophy, record, or ring. As a cross country and triathlon coach now, I hope to bring the same loving commitment to my own team and athletes, motivating them to reach and surpass their own limits, and if they do not, then I still will take them out for ice cream after.
Chris Hague, an '07 graduate of the University of the South and 4-year varsity runner, is currently assistant coach to his former team; he remains an active runner and triathlete.
Servant-Leadership on the College Campus
This season has been a busy time for servant-leadership on college campuses across the country. In late February, the Gabriel Center facilitated an overnight retreat for LaGrange College's Servant Fellows. I also had the pleasure of talking with the University of the South's Women's Volleyball Team in Sewanee, Tennessee, where servant-leadership is at the core of the team's ethos. While at Sewanee, I also spoke with a former student of mine, Chris Hague, who serves as assistant Cross Country coach. And just last week, Katie and I attended the Pacific Northwest Conference on Servant-Leadership at Marylhurst University in Oregon. One workshop I attended discussed the connection between compassion and servant-leadership; the other was about a cross-cultural program on a reservation in Washington State which brought Native American and Japanese students together for life-changing experiences. LaGrange, Sewanee, and Marylhurst -- all three of these institutions embody the spirit of servant-leadership and it was a pleasure to be part of those discussions at each place. In other news, we were also thrilled to have a such a wonderful turnout for our workshop entitled "Leading with Skill and Spirit" at the annual Episcopal Diocese of Atlanta's Ministry Fair in mid-March. Thanks to all who attended!
LaGrange College's Servant-Leadership Retreat
This month, we are excited to have the opportunity to facilitate LaGrange College's servant-leadership group's annual retreat on February 24th-25th at Callaway Gardens in Georgia. The group, convened by The Rev. Dr. Quincy Brown, Vice-President for Spiritual Life at LaGrange, will focus on the power of reflection, defining servant-leadership, and honing personal awareness. College students around the country are thinking about servant-leadership. Below is a video filmed on the campus of the University of Southern Mississippi that prompts us to think about servant-leadership and the next generation of leaders. http://youtu.be/Z36wzpBErKQ?t=2m26s
Brenau University Servant-Leader Scholars Quarterly Meeting
We're honored by and grateful for the generous donations we've received to support Brenau University's Servant-Leader Scholars Program. We can still use your assistance as we plan for the next semester. Please keep Brenau and the Gabriel Center in mind as you consider end-of-year donations. Give online or mail your gift to the Gabriel Center, 123 Church Street, NE, Suite 150, Marietta, GA, 30060. Any surplus funding received will be used to support the Gabriel Center and its mission. Thank you again. On Monday, November 28th, the Brenau University Servant-Leader Scholars held a quarterly meeting on the campus of Brenau. Part social gathering, part planning session, the gathering of twelve women provided an opportunity for collaborative decision making. They divided into two small groups and, given materials and time, created a way to protect an egg from breaking when dropped from a height of six feet. Both groups were successful in working together, communicating, and demonstrating both individual leadership skills and group processing ability. These sessions will serve as the women's own servant-leader training so they will be equipped to teach those skills to the elementary aged school children whom they will be mentoring in the spring semester. Thanks to all for a wonderful evening!
A Servant-Leader Weekend: Brenau University's Servant-Leader Scholars Retreat
Twelve women, all members of Brenau University's Servant-Leader Scholars Program in Gainesville, Georgia, participated in their organization's annual Fall Retreat this past weekend, October 7-9. Facilitated by Gabriel Center staff, the retreat focused on servant-leader skill development, the connections between commitment and servant-leadership, and communication and feedback skills. Here are a few testimonials from the weekend.
"This weekend has brought many excellent aspects of leadership skills that are necessary to know or at least recognize to be a good servant-leader. By understanding what a servant-leader is, it has opened my eyes to wonderful and productive techniques that I can carry throughout my college years and life. Things as simple as feedback were discussed in depth and the ways to bring about constructive criticism are astonishing. I’ve learned so much and know that I’ve grown as a leader and more importantly, I’ve grown myself. I’m extremely lucky to have been able to attend and know what an amazing opportunity I’ve been given." --Brittany A.
"On this retreat I have gained many valuable skills that will help in becoming a better servant-leader. Specifically having effective listening skills will encourage my peers to come to me if they ever need to discuss anything." -- Amanda B.
"This week I have learned that I need to voice my opinion. I feel blessed with a compassionate, servant’s heart and I need to serve anyone I can." --Ashley V.
"This weekend has taught me how to listen to others and effectively execute a task in a timely manner. I’ve learned how to put the technology away and focus. Sometimes taking everyone’s different thoughts and experiences and using them enriches any situation." --Allison G.
"This weekend has allowed me to learn things about servant-leadership that I’d never even considered. How to give effective feedback, how to listen actively, how to appropriately delegate responsibilities: all of these things are necessary to be good servant-leaders. Participating in this retreat has forced me to take a step back and inspect my leadership qualities, and determine which ones need improvement." --Elizabeth S.
Honoring September 11
Ten years ago I was a sixth-grade teacher at a school in suburban Maryland, just a few miles from Washington, D.C. It was only the second week of school during my second year of teaching. That year I taught twin eleven-year-old boys whom I barely knew. In the morning after the towers had fallen and the Pentagon had been hit by a plane, we knew that the twins' father, whom I had never met, was supposed to fly out of Dulles that day for a business trip, but we didn't have any news of his whereabouts for several hours. Then, later that afternoon, the principal came to my door to get one of the boys from my classroom. I felt my face go white. I knew without being told the worst had happened. I kept teaching. When class was finally over, I learned that the boys' father had in fact been on American Airlines Flight 77 that hit the Pentagon.
Later that same year, while we were studying a young reader's version of Homer's Odyssey, something happened in class that I've never forgotten. In the story, Odysseus was fighting obstacle after obstacle on his way home to Ithaca and his wife Penelope, who had spent most of her husband's absence fighting off suitors. Instead of responding to the suitors' advances, Penelope wove her tapestry while she waited faithfully for husband to arrive home. One of the twins quietly asked, supposedly of Penelope, "Will she remarry?" I sensed that the real question he was asking was if his own mother would remarry. I simply said, "We'll have to see."
Ten years later I return to that crystal-blue September morning. Quiet now is the chaos of that day, and what resonates is that simple question, posed by a young boy, of what will happen next. Much has been written and said and done in the intervening years following the attacks, but to me the most powerful memory is that small moment.
This Sunday, we honor the tenth anniversary of September 11. How each of us remembers that day is an individual choice. As one friend suggested on a Facebook posting, "what if we honored the dead by doing things that affirm life and liberty, as each of us sees fit?"
Mark Elberfeld
Communications Coordinator


